As students, we cannot run away from having friends. In fact, all those students who were with us for almost two decades of studying (right from Standard One to university life) are our friends, whether we like it or not. We will compare our life to them. We will definitely measure our success against theirs.
They will inevitably put a major influence on our life.
Who we are in the future will be determined by who we hang around with now.
Who are your friends now? If your friends are a bunch of failure, looser, mal-behaved then you will become like one of them soon or later. If your friends are great achiever, top scorer and well disciplined, you too will become like them in the future.
You will inevitably change your attitude and behavior as time goes. Attitude and behavior are learned and influenced traits. They can be mold to bad or good ones. The choice is yours, you decide who or what you are going to be.
Ask yourself now, what do you want to be in 10 years time, then find people who resemble the future-you, hang around with them and stick with them. Even if you are occasionally with them, they will put a tremendous effect on your up-bringing. Furthermore, if you put an extra effort to emulate them or model after them, you will become like them in their success.
I hope none of you out there have the mental retardation of trying to model a student or a figure who is failing all time whether in study or in general life.
Anthony Robbins, probably the world most popular self improvement guru stress the importance of modeling after successful person in order to be a champion. I highly recommend anybody who is hungry for success to read his books ‘Unlimited Power’ and ‘Awaken the Giant Within’.
Of course modeling somebody can also be true the other way round. If you hang around with the crook, smoker, drinker, the lazy, the gangster, the bully, whether you like it or not, you will become the sum of all of them, A FAILURE!
To this day, I could see myself as bits and pieces of all the great friends I have mix with. I have also admired and modeled some successful man and woman along the way. I could see their influences in me too. In truth, I am the way I am now because I have been positively influenced by all the great people I have mixed with. Life would not be the same had I choose the wrong friends.
It is not too late for you. Choose your friends now. While you cannot do anything about choosing your parents, you could mould your future just by selecting the right friends now. These friends need not to be your classmate, schoolmate or anybody around your age. They can be much older than you, they can be you teacher, your lecturer, your mentor or even your most successful businessman or politician in town.
The choice is yours, which of these groups do you think has a higher chance to survive and to succeed in both education and life in general. The answer is obvious. Where are you now? Who are you mingling with? Which groups are you belong to? Could you answer that honestly? Because that what you are years from now.
Do you want to succeed badly? – Then be in the winning group! (to be continued ... )
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