THE WINNING ATTITUDES.
We have been talking about this right from the beginning. They are simply the opposite of the failing attitudes discussed before. In truth all the chapter titles are the summary of winning attitudes. The point is – attitude can be changed. They are not born with you. You can adopt these winning attitudes or you can adopt the failing attitudes. It is your choice.
Life is a matter of choice.
You always have a choice. The biggest lie is the excuse of ‘I do not have a choice’. No – you did have a choice, but you just choose not to have one. When a person says ‘I do not have a choice’ what actually said is ‘I do not have another pleasurable choice’. The usual example of this is when your superior tells you to do something with no option to say NO. Therefore, you will go on and relate to your colleagues that you have to do it because you have no choice. It is true that you have no choice as long as you want to keep the job (choice that is pleasurable). However, if you consider the possibility of not working under him anymore, suddenly there are millions more choices left for you to make. See what I meant.
Everything in life is about making choices. There is even a story about a dying man lying unconscious on an operating table but still able to reason with what was going on. After recovering from the ordeal, he recalled how he was repeatedly saying to himself ‘I choose to live, I could die, I fell like dying, but I choose to live, I want to live’. So he lives to tell the story.
You can choose to succeed or to fail. 30 years from now and whatever you have turned yourself into (a millionaire or a pauper), remember that you have made that choice today. You study hard, you choose to succeed. You do not and you have chosen to fail. It is your choice!
Learn how to say NO.
There is a book called ‘The art of selfishness’. It tells mostly of how important for us to be freed from other people grip and bully. It may sound easy, but you will be surprised how often people say YES when they really mean NO. Needless to say, the consequent of such mishaps can be painful and long lasting. You may have recalled (not so infrequently) how you have reluctantly say YES when the appropriate respond would have been flat NO. I do not need to remind you how uncomfortable it is to live up the ‘YES’ you have so carelessly uttered.
Free yourself. Say NO. People around you will be impressed and start respecting you for your firmness and principles. No? Yes!
Next is 'Look out for Oppurtunity'. Stay tuned.
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